How to Find a ‘Real’ Relationship in 2018

Are you looking for love?


Words by Persia Lawson
January 2nd, 2018

Haaaaappy New Year! I hope you had a super festive season and January has gotten off to a great start. 🙂

Now, I have a question for you: Have you made any New Year’s Resolutions or goals for 2018 yet? And do any of them centre around your love life? If so, read on dear one…

I remember, way back at the start of 2015, being absolutely convinced that this was the year I was going to meet the man I’d one day marry. After all the heartbreak and disappointments in love, I finally felt ready. By this point in my life, I’d done enough therapy and read enough self-help books to know why my previous relationships hadn’t worked out. When you understand where and how things went wrong in the past, it’s much easier to make different choices in the future. Then, towards the end of January that year, I met him. Or, so I thought.

He was everything I was so sure I wanted – on paper, at least. This is it, I told myself; FINALLY, my happily ever after. You can imagine my frustration when, less than two months later, it all went tits up.

Truth be told, I was livid. What had I done wrong this time? And then, one random morning while I was walking my parent’s dog in the park, it dawned on me. It wasn’t that I’d been doing anything wrong, as such. It was more that I’d forgotten one very important and necessary element of what it really takes to attract your soulmate. Because that’s what I was looking for, after all: Someone I could connect with on a deeply intimate and spiritual level.

I was done with short-lived, superficial romances. Done. And once I understood what this ‘missing piece’ had been all this time, I decided to STOP WORRYING about when and how my life partner would turn up. Because ultimately, I knew that was completely out of my hands.

So, instead of wasting all that precious time and energy trying so damn hard to get the love life I so desperately wanted, I committed to doing one simple thing every day instead. One thing. That was it.


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Less than three months later, I met the love of my life in the most gorgeously synchronistic way imaginable. There were no games, no guessing about his feelings for me, and for the first time, no manipulation on my part to try and make it work. Because this time, I really was ready.

Two and a half years on, I’m now travelling the world with my fella and I couldn’t be happier in our relationship (though of course, it’s not without its challenges!) Considering that I used to be a serial cheater and obsessive love addict, this is no small feat.

I’d hazard a guess that some of you reading this are in the place I was in my love life back at the start of 2015. Done with the heartbreak. Done with the guessing. Done with the constant disappointment. And, most importantly, feeling ready to attract in the great relationship you really deserve. If this sounds like you, I’d love to invite you to try out the practice I committed to myself back in 2015 via a special free guide I’ve created, just for you. Do it for the rest of January, and I can pretty much guarantee that any anxiety you’ve been feeling over your love life will dramatically decrease, and you’ll start feeling so much more confident, hopeful and excited instead.

Click here to get instant access to your free guide.

The simple process I share in the guide has been getting many of my love-coaching clients some great results:

  • Some have had a flurry of guys asking them out on dates.
  • A few now find themselves in new relationships after practising the process daily for a month or two.
  • And pretty much all of them who I’ve spoken to have shared how much more confident, hopeful and excited they now feel about their love life.

Not a bad ROI, in my opinion. 😉

Persia Lawson is an author, speaker and “one of the UK’s most successful love coaches” – according to The Saturday Times magazine. As maven46’s love and life columnist, we caught up with Persia for our ‘maven46 meets’ series which you can read here. Catch up on last month’s column, How to Break Up With Someone.

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